Connect with others who understand.

sign up log in
About MyOsteoTeam

Putting Yourself First

Posted on May 16, 2019

Have you ever put someone’s else’s needs ahead of your own? We all do it - we’re human, after all. There is a name for this generous tendency. Economists refer to this situation, when one person's well-being cannot be improved without making another person's position worse, as the Pareto efficiency.

One example of the Pareto efficiency is the use of oxygen masks when air pressure drops during an airline flight. If you are traveling with a child, your first instinct is to put their mask on them before fitting your own. However, as every pre-flight safety lecture insists, you must put on your own mask first before helping others. Your first action needs to be to ensure your own health and safety. Sometimes you need to override that generous tendency and think of your own survival first - then you are free to help those around you.

When living with a chronic condition, you could be impacting your overall health if you put the needs of others first. It’s okay to give yourself permission to slow down and reflect before saying ‘yes’ to helping someone else to ensure your needs have been met first. Moreover, give yourself permission to say ‘no’ with kindness. It can be empowering to do so.

Do you find yourself taking care of everyone else before taking care of yourself? Do you try to take measures to think of yourself first before saying yes?

Here are some conversations about this topic from the community:

"I'm beginning to realize the importance of self-care...so I'm slowly making adjustments."

"Self-care is the best treatment!"

"On a bright note, I am back to making my self-care a priority!"

Comment below or post on MyOsteoTeam with ways you've had to put yourself first before helping others.

A MyOsteoTeam Member said:

I don't say much about my osteo. Even through lm often in pain. I continue to run a largish house, help my husband in your businee. Continue my career… read more

posted about 2 months ago

hug (3)

Recent articles

Mht infographic symptoms myosteoteam
There's so much more to osteoporosis than meets the eye. Below the surface, living with osteo can...

Osteoporosis: What People Don't See (Infographic)

There's so much more to osteoporosis than meets the eye. Below the surface, living with osteo can...
Mht takingcareofmyself fb v2
Keeping promises to yourself is a way to focus on self-nurture. This could mean making a...

Who's the One Person You Should Always Keep Your Promise To?

Keeping promises to yourself is a way to focus on self-nurture. This could mean making a...
Osteoporosis and fatigue causes and tips for management
Article written by Laurie Berger If you live with fatigue and osteoporosis, your fatigue may be...

Osteoporosis and Fatigue: Causes and Tips for Management

Article written by Laurie Berger If you live with fatigue and osteoporosis, your fatigue may be...
Osteo logo
Maximize MyOsteoTeam by sharing a little bit about yourself. This article will help you get...

Getting Started on MyOsteoTeam

Maximize MyOsteoTeam by sharing a little bit about yourself. This article will help you get...
Sayingnoaf
Yes. No. I mean – maybe? Well, okay. Have you ever wanted to be able to say "no" without feeling...

Are You Afraid to Say No?

Yes. No. I mean – maybe? Well, okay. Have you ever wanted to be able to say "no" without feeling...
Mht af justdiagnosed olderwoman
We all respond differently to information about our health. After learning you have osteoporosis,...

You’ve Just Been Diagnosed With Osteoporosis. Now What?

We all respond differently to information about our health. After learning you have osteoporosis,...
Coronavirus
Article written by Kelly Crumrin According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention...

Canceling Is Kindness: Keeping Safe From COVID-19 With Osteoporosis

Article written by Kelly Crumrin According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention...
Setting intentions for 2020 with osteoporosis
Eat healthier. Exercise more. Learn a new skill. Pay off a credit card. Many of us have made...

Setting Intentions for 2020 With Osteoporosis

Eat healthier. Exercise more. Learn a new skill. Pay off a credit card. Many of us have made...
Your answers  the worst osteoporosis advice
We asked and you answered! We posted this question: What bits of "advice" do you wish people...

Your Answers: The Worst Osteoporosis Advice (Infographic)

We asked and you answered! We posted this question: What bits of "advice" do you wish people...
Osteoporosis and chronic stress
Article written by Laurie Berger Living with osteoporosis can be stressful. Fractures, worries...

Osteoporosis and Chronic Stress

Article written by Laurie Berger Living with osteoporosis can be stressful. Fractures, worries...
MyOsteoTeam My osteoporosis Team

Two Ways to Get Started with MyOsteoTeam

Become a Member

Connect with others who are living with osteoporosis. Get members only access to emotional support, advice, treatment insights, and more.

sign up

Become a Subscriber

Get the latest articles about osteoporosis sent to your inbox.

Not now, thanks

Privacy policy
MyOsteoTeam My osteoporosis Team

Thank you for signing up.

close